Small or Large families?

I prefer small only because I just cant manage large households- I find them far too stressful! Autonomy off feels stressful because there are too manage sims to micro manage all the time, and autonomy on just means my sims are all doing weird and unhelpful things that I have to keep cancelling (eg I'm close to actually starving to death and there's a freshly prepared meal in the kitchen, but yes, let's forget about impending death and go and play on the pc... :s )
Any more than 4 sims and my brain starts to fry! I always used to play big households in previous sims games and really enjoyed it though.