Well, I discovered what my particular issue was. I was misreading the one who had to be angry. I was reading as 'apologize to spouse who is angry' when it really was supposed to be while (you) are angry, apologize to your spouse. That worked. As far as the angry part-easiest way to do it is 'lock' both sims in a room with an angry painting (emotional aura enabled) or several (I removed door) then have the one with the aspiration make a small (i.e. mean/insult) gesture to the spouse. Use whatever apology available and that should work.