hi sorry for bad english its not my first language

Ok so basically my problem doesn't happen immediately, but it'll lag then the better exceptions mod will take me out of my game, but that takes forever to scan (or it never finishes), or it'll say there's nothing wrong. When I go back to my game tab, I cannot 1. Go into CAS unless done through MCCC or manage worlds, but I cannot edit any families; just make new ones. 3. I edit 1 sim, then the next one has the same exact name as the first sim and sometimes carries over the traits. 4. It only shows me boy names for girl Sims and girl names for male Sims when I hit randomize 5. I have the more traits mod, but it glitches if the first Sims I edit is a young adult/adult, and then if I click on a child Sim, it'll give it five traits. Oh, also, my Sim will not go to bed for the life of her even when I turn off autonomy and download a "sleep all night" mod.

any suggestions that dont involve deleting all my cc? i spent days making her and her house. im alright with deleting mods but most of them are from curseforge which i think updates their mods often.

also, last night i downloaded a build from the gallery (no cc used) and it took forever to place. when it finished i tried to save and go to manage worlds but it never loaded. i waited for an hour. idk if this could be the cause of the build never loading but it was like 600kb which i think is a lot. 

sorry if this is confusing!