Sims keep wanting to sit interaction (specifically outdoor bench)

this glitch/bug or whatever it is literally driving me insane so im hoping to make this a team quest if u are also having this issue

every few sim minutes, sims (even npcs) just go sits, 99% of the time they choose a bench miles away outside - literally my sim like in oasis springs chooses a bench across the street and all the way on the other side of town. even in san myshuno, they leave their apartment to go sit on a bench. even in a nightclub! all the clubbers wanting to sit on ONE bench specifically, even the bartender!

so u may ask "what if u delete the benches they are trying to sit on?", well i tried that. they then try to just sit on chairs inside their home... [crying!]

weirdly enough, even when i turn off autonomy, that one specific sit interaction still pushes through (and im guessing its on a timer it gets injected?) | also yes u can see the interaction bubble and can cancel but the sim will try again to go sit

i have deleted many mods i thought could be the issue, but i have not succeeded. i need to take breaks in between. i had tried scanning the interaction while their doing it to see if the mod name will come up but its specifically just the seating_sit ea tuning

i saw on curseforge in a mod comment that someone else is having this issue and thought it was that mod (it was not) so im hoping to make it a team effort we can figure out together 

so please if u figure it out by 50/50ing or whatever, please let the rest of us know - thank u!