I second this. I micromanage my sims hardcore. Autonomy is always off on my selected sim. It's INFURIATING because sometimes I just want to leave my toddler in the high chair with a bowl of cereal while mom cleans the kitchen. I mean, baby is hungry, but they apparently want down EVEN MORE and it's super frustrating because it's like... Just please sit and eat. Toddlers rarely have a say in being let down irl and honestly I've gone through moments where literally I just wanted everyone to sit in the dining room and eat - plates queued up and all - and the toddler just won't give. Everyone else is eating but mom is in a cycle of place toddler>sit down> pick up toddler> set her down> >pick her up> repeat. I've spent three in-game hours trying to break this cycle before. I'm about to make a playpen out of half walls in the dining room for my toddlers.
Do you think posting in the bug board might help at all? Surely toddlers shouldn't have this much say in being let out.