Best graphics for my laptop?

@jorrdantylar  You should be able to play on ultra graphics settings, unless you have a lot of high poly (high resolution) custom content.  In that case, you may need to turn a couple of settings down to high, for example sim detail if your high poly cc is clothing or hair, or lighting or object detail if you use a lot of cc furniture.

One setting that you might actually want to turn off is post processing.  It usually only adds a little to the demands of the game, but its effect is to make far away objects much blurrier than you might want.

There's no harm in experimenting a bit—the worst that should happen is that your framerates drop somewhat, you notice the game getting a bit choppy, and you have to turn down a setting to get better results.  None of this should damage your laptop.  What would be a problem is if the laptop started to overheat.  Just make sure it can cool itself properly while you play: place it on a hard flat surface, or if you notice it running very hot, use a fan or a cooling pad.

Another thing that can help is limiting in-game framerates.  If you play in fullscreen mode, just enable vertical sync in the graphics settings menu.  If you play in windowed mode, you'll need to use an outside tool.  Let me know if you'd like help with this.