I found the mod that wasn't working and removed it "Wicked Whims", after removing that and all the files that are related to that one.
but even after doing that the mods weren't showing, I took out the mods and repaired the game without it, then i put the mods back in and it wasn't working, but then I added my second copy of the mods back in a desperate attempt, so now i have a mods folder, and inside is my mods 2 folder with the same mods as my normal mods folder. It works now. The cci had previously used on my sims isn't showing up on those sims now but i can fix it in cas.fulleditmode, hopefull this helps anyone else with this issue
