We care! Supporting Simmers going through hard times.

I stumbled on this thread by accident. Reading through some of the responses here has put things into perspective for me...while I may be going through trials, I am not alone and also, there isn't anything that I'm going through right now that others haven't gone through before me and overcome. So, now I have no excuse to feel sorry for myself.

For those of you who are somewhat familiar with me, I lost my oldest daughter the day after Valentine's Day. She was 42 and left behind a grieving husband and a six year old son. I was living with them at the time of her death and continued to stay with my son-in-law and grandson until school let out in June. Then I moved out to be in the same city as my youngest daughter and have started a new life here. My son-in-law bought a piece of land in another town and he now has his mother, sister, and nephew living with him and my grandson, so I felt that I was free to go, since my grandson is being well taken care of by his other grandmother.

It hasn't been easy, though. The hardest part for me to adjust to is living alone again. When I think of the many times when I lived in a crowded household with my daughter, son-in-law, grandson, 2 dogs and 3 cats, and wished for a place of my own, it seems ironic. Because now I have what I wanted, but I miss the people and the chaos...especially having someone to talk to and someone to hug and make a fuss over (my grandson and the pets).

And yes, I, too, have health issues, but even those are manageable to an extent. I'm doing my best to get help for them. If anything, this thread has shown me that, no matter what differences of opinion we may have about this version of The Sims, we each have our own reasons for playing and can usually find some solace and yes, fun...if only a brief escape from the grim reality of life.

I will be thinking of you all and putting you in my prayers (It can't hurt, can it?)....thank you for showing me that I am not alone and, after all...life isn't All About Me, and it's better to care for others and think about THEIR needs, rather than focusing so much on my own and feeling sorry for myself.

Jarsie9

ETA: SimMommy05, my condolences on the death of your stepmother.

"Jarsie9;12964018" wrote:
I stumbled on this thread by accident. Reading through some of the responses here has put things into perspective for me...while I may be going through trials, I am not alone and also, there isn't anything that I'm going through right now that others haven't gone through before me and overcome. So, now I have no excuse to feel sorry for myself.

For those of you who are somewhat familiar with me, I lost my oldest daughter the day after Valentine's Day. She was 42 and left behind a grieving husband and a six year old son. I was living with them at the time of her death and continued to stay with my son-in-law and grandson until school let out in June. Then I moved out to be in the same city as my youngest daughter and have started a new life here. My son-in-law bought a piece of land in another town and he now has his mother, sister, and nephew living with him and my grandson, so I felt that I was free to go, since my grandson is being well taken care of by his other grandmother.

It hasn't been easy, though. The hardest part for me to adjust to is living alone again. When I think of the many times when I lived in a crowded household with my daughter, son-in-law, grandson, 2 dogs and 3 cats, and wished for a place of my own, it seems ironic. Because now I have what I wanted, but I miss the people and the chaos...especially having someone to talk to and someone to hug and make a fuss over (my grandson and the pets).

And yes, I, too, have health issues, but even those are manageable to an extent. I'm doing my best to get help for them. If anything, this thread has shown me that, no matter what differences of opinion we may have about this version of The Sims, we each have our own reasons for playing and can usually find some solace and yes, fun...if only a brief escape from the grim reality of life.

I will be thinking of you all and putting you in my prayers (It can't hurt, can it?)....thank you for showing me that I am not alone and, after all...life isn't All About Me, and it's better to care for others and think about THEIR needs, rather than focusing so much on my own and feeling sorry for myself.

Jarsie9

ETA: SimMommy05, my condolences on the death of your stepmother.

Hello @Jarsie9 I am so sorry to hear about the passing away of your daughter. I send so many special thoughts to you. Thankyou for all that you have written here. They are very special and heartful words that you have written. Thankyou for sharing and expressing them here. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

I am glad to have come across this thread and to see how much support is here. We all go through rough times and need love and support. I do hope you all can come through whatever is causing you problems with your head held high , knowing others care about you and you got through it . *hugs everyone*

I even have my own physical and mental problems ,that keeps me from living my life. I have to live with my father and I hate it because he is in his 70s , but at least I was able to get SSI and able to pay him "rent". But once he is gone , my life is soon to follow though. Sure the money will be there but my mental issue will be too , one keeps me from being able to go shopping. My late mothers family always treated me well, while she was alive but since her death , left me and my father behind since neither one of us have been family. His family has been the same since day 1 , always treated me poorly except when they want to kiss up to him . I am very glad I do not share their DNA . My father is my only family I have . Friendship is only online and even then its barely a friendship. I am not one that knows what it is like to have your mother and or father has your best friend but kinda wish I knew what that meant. Yeah , I am was not close to my late mother , nor am I close to my father. Though , I can openly speak to him about anything , though I do limit it to a point.

This is why I love Sims so much. It gives me a moment to pretend I can be loved, get married , have kids, have a nice family on both sides , have a job I love. And its a way for me to bring some life to some of my stories I write that will never see "daylight" .

@Derekjohnson, you learn to take things one day at a time; after all, that's really all we have; we're not guaranteed a tomorrow. Crystal's birthday is on Monday...she would have turned 43. My youngest and I will be celebrating it together with dinner at my apartment and simply being grateful for the time we had together, thankful that she is no longer suffering the many physical problems that eventually led up to her dying. We take comfort in the thought that her beautiful spirit lives on in a better place...and I, at least, hope to see her one day when my time comes.

"faceless341;12964523" wrote:
I am glad to have come across this thread and to see how much support is here. We all go through rough times and need love and support. I do hope you all can come through whatever is causing you problems with your head held high , knowing others care about you and you got through it . *hugs everyone*

I even have my own physical and mental problems ,that keeps me from living my life. I have to live with my father and I hate it because he is in his 70s , but at least I was able to get SSI and able to pay him "rent". But once he is gone , my life is soon to follow though. Sure the money will be there but my mental issue will be too , one keeps me from being able to go shopping. My late mothers family always treated me well, while she was alive but since her death , left me and my father behind since neither one of us have been family. His family has been the same since day 1 , always treated me poorly except when they want to kiss up to him . I am very glad I do not share their DNA . My father is my only family I have . Friendship is only online and even then its barely a friendship. I am not one that knows what it is like to have your mother and or father has your best friend but kinda wish I knew what that meant. Yeah , I am was not close to my late mother , nor am I close to my father. Though , I can openly speak to him about anything , though I do limit it to a point.

This is why I love Sims so much. It gives me a moment to pretend I can be loved, get married , have kids, have a nice family on both sides , have a job I love. And its a way for me to bring some life to some of my stories I write that will never see "daylight" .

Hello @faceless341 I am sorry that you are having to cope with physical and mental issues and that you feel alone without the support of family members and friends . Please know that I will keep you in my thoughts. I care about how you are feeling and you have simmers here that will be thinking of you as you cope with all that life holds for you each day.

"Jarsie9;12964525" wrote:
@Derekjohnson, you learn to take things one day at a time; after all, that's really all we have; we're not guaranteed a tomorrow. Crystal's birthday is on Monday...she would have turned 43. My youngest and I will be celebrating it together with dinner at my apartment and simply being grateful for the time we had together, thankful that she is no longer suffering the many physical problems that eventually led up to her dying. We take comfort in the thought that her beautiful spirit lives on in a better place...and I, at least, hope to see her one day when my time comes.

We do need to take and live one day at a time.
I will be especially thinking of you and your family on Monday.

Thank you for your kindness. I really am glad that you and other simmers do care bout others . In fact Simmers have been in my experience the sweetest people around. :D

Hello to everyone. Sending a bunch of colourful flowers to each person who reads this post, for you to see and to add a touch of beauty to your day. :)

Hello to everyone. :) It is snowing and raining in many areas of the world. The weather is also quite cold. Wherever you may live in the world and whatever the weather, I send an umbrella made of flower petals which you can shelter under as you cope with whatever concerns and worries that you have in your life. The petals will provide a comforting and nice scent as you walk through the day.

Just sending a bunch of colourful balloons to everyone, and each balloon contains a hello from me and a little ray of sunshine. As you hold the balloons in your hands and look up at them floating in the air, may you also feel uplifted by the support of your loved ones in your life, both family and friends. If you feel alone without family and friends, I send an extra special balloon for you to hold in your hand, and that will contain thoughts from me that I thinking of all people that feel alone.