@PaQuilter1 When I add too many contacts ,my contact list starts to freeze up. I don't know if EA has a limit on how many sims you can add to contact list but they might.
Did Tyler start a friendship story in your game with my sim Van? If you chose to pick a friendship story later, it won't save the friendship. I have done that. If you picked a relationship story , your sim should be able to socialize with my sim by checking stories even if my sim is not on your contact list
I'm doing the sports story with your sim. They are at level 4 . Tyler shows up in stories and in contacts but my sim does not have a large contact list
Retired sims . If your friend retired a sim, that sim will leave your friend's game I think in 5 days. Your friend will no longer be able to socialize wit her sim and that sim will take their place in your friend's family portrait as last gen. That same sim will stay in your game allot longer. That sim becomes an NPC in your game so you can complete any relationship story you have with that sim.
I do agree some sims don't look retired. I have given them stickers that no one will ever get