Grimm is not grimmin'

I have a character dying. Grimm showed up, but stood around for 3 days. Meanwhile, the rest of the household is in utter chaos with unsatisfied babies that nobody will take care of, characters standing around or not doing what is directed, and no one is sleeping, eating or using the bathroom on their own. I have restarted it four times, because it won't let me save during a death. Think I'll back away from the game until all the update bugs are fixed. I see a lot of issues others are having. I'm sure EA is aware and trying to fix. 

Thank you