Thanks, I am still working on my arrogance, it is getting much better with age.
I am of the opinion, long waits in lobbies is the software not pulling from a large resource pool. I expressed it in a feedback thread "Crossplay is not crossplay". I also noticed picking a non-default server has reduced my wait. As for lasting in matches, I am still learning, but when I started in the last month of season 12, there wasn't much resistance. When season 13 dropped barely 2 weeks ago, my survival rate dropped with it. I chalk this up to veteran players returning to the game. These people ( I am told ) will smoke us on the first month and then disappear back into the void until season 14.
I really don't see any viable software solution for other players being better than I am. You can try to sort them, but to my understanding there are people who will "smurf" the Hogwarts Sorting Hat. About the only thing you can do is toss everyone into the meat grinder and hope they figure it out. Rookie or veteran, there is no advantage given by the software based on your body count. It is a choice of fight or flee... I hit the ground running for the nearest supplies and once I am armed, I cover my team.