I've asked myself this multiple times, only to ignore it to fuel my addiction to the rush of getting kills on actual players instead of bots. I tend to just hate myself for putting so much time into these kinds of games. I've played SMITE in the past for over 1000 hours before finally kicking that habit, Overwatch I'm hating more than loving lately and usually rage quit every time I try to play now, despite having around 500+ hours in it, and you all see how much I complain or rage about Apex if you see a few of my posts, and I'm nearly level 400 now, so a lot of time here, plus many, many other games that feature online multiplayer (Paladins, Call of Duty, a little Fortnite way back in like season 1 or 2, the list goes on and on).My skill level in these games is all the same too: Amateur at best, even after all the experience I get from playing, and it frustrates me when I see how little I improve and do the same noob mistakes all the time. I get toxic, rage, hell, I've broken stuff from raging at times, I sometimes just go off in a chat or message box, either on how the game sucks, or this person sucks, or even how much I suck and hate myself, like I need the world to hear how much I hate this game or myself. It's a serious problem and I hate it when I start going off, but it's some awful habit that comes out every time I get toxic and raging in games that have other people in them.I feel inferior to everyone when I see how easy it is for most people to play games, I feel rage when I just can't perform as well as someone on another team or my team (especially when the start tbagging me after "owning my *" (seriously hate whoever started the tbagging meme or whatever...)), the rare times I do get a good game, it just feels like the game took pity on me and put me in a lobby full of new or less experienced players than me to reel me back in with the rush of winning...I hate it...I hate all of it...It's like I'm addicted to anything with the word multiplayer in it so I can try to see if I'm better than everyone else, when I know I'm not. My internet also isn't cut out for these kinds of games most days. I barely get 5mbps down on a good day, and it's constantly fluxing and giving me lag spikes, which makes me rage even harder, so another reason why I should stop playing these games....I guess I know the answer already. Yes, I should quit and move on with my life. I have so much more I could do instead of sit here and complain about multiplayer or rage in multiplayer or go off on a toxic spewing tantrum...

If I may speak for all my toxic brethren who’ll likely pounce here:@jokool_aid, DON’T let anyone tell you how to live your life. Alot of ppl, me included dislike it when a game puts us with seemingly braindead or bad ppl who’re supposed to be at least decent if they’re in same lobbies as us (screw you Apex xD). We msg, call out, heck some berate or go on a tantrum against that sucky person... (and then you have those scumbagsofpiecesofdogdoodoo who’ll take it further and threaten, throw racial slurs and such) just as an exhaust for that game.That said, only you can decide what you like. If you like multiplayer, keep playing it even if you’re bad. Most games have good matchmaking in place (kind of impossible now for BRs due to the number of variables) so that lower skilled go against lower skilled so that it’s even playing field. Don’t let anyone take out the joy you experience while playing it. Like you said, you rage, smash stuff, heck you probably try doing backflips knowing you’ll fail cause you just need to fume out that excess energy. That means your passionate about it. If you didn’t care about losing/winning, mp games and so on you wouldn’t do those things. You can get frustrated, that’s natural. Venting is a way of dealing with it. It’s the same as ppl working out when they’re mad or ppl going to seek professional help to talk things out. Everybody needs a way to offload problems.Everyone has a ceiling. Maybe yours isn’t that high but don’t worry about it. You can even say beforehand that you’re not very good in mp matches...I am guilty of calling ppl noobs or stupid too (usually I’m well contained to not go further than that)... mic is muted but I unmute just to say those stuff cuz I know if I say it unmuted I’ll still have the urge to be bad... sometimes I throw controller... usually against pillow... sometimes not...But the takeaway is, no matter if you suck at something, as long as you enjoy it, even if it frustrates you, keep going. Cause if we all stop doing things we like, what else is there left... <— damnit sounded so poetic in my head with sad music XD.

@Koochi-QSame. If one of my teammate lands solo across the map, I am the one to type 'Die idiot' as I see his HP go from 100 to 0. I don't care if people say it's toxic, stupid is stupid. Tho I never throw stuff lol, I am too poor for that :DI had a Bangalore on my team who pushed solo 200 metres away , died and then when I called him out he says 'I am 10000x better than you'. He had 4k badge and all, I gaslighted him into leaving the ranked game before banner timeout. I would rather play duo(2nd was a good random) than rez the guy.

@jokool_aid My advice is this- Only play games or do things that make you happy most of the time. If a game session of apex or other games leaves you angry the majority of the time stop.

@jokool_aid "I've broken stuff from raging"I'd say break a few more valuable items in your reach and all of a sudden you'll have this sudden shock of what you just did and how much damage you just inflicted and how much it'd cost to replace.Otherwise I'd recommend to simply go for a walk or exercise to wear that hate off.

@jokool_aid It seems like you have some real challenges ahead of you: getting in control of your emotions, channeling that negative energy into something productive. I'd say it's better to work on these than quit. Quitting is easy, but the problems don't get fixed this way and eventually reappear, be it in gaming or in other aspects of life.

Should I quit playing online multiplayers?

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Koochi-Q
5 years ago
If I may speak for all my toxic brethren who’ll likely pounce here:

@jokool_aid, DON’T let anyone tell you how to live your life. Alot of ppl, me included dislike it when a game puts us with seemingly braindead or bad ppl who’re supposed to be at least decent if they’re in same lobbies as us (screw you Apex xD). We msg, call out, heck some berate or go on a tantrum against that sucky person... (and then you have those scumbagsofpiecesofdogdoodoo who’ll take it further and threaten, throw racial slurs and such) just as an exhaust for that game.

That said, only you can decide what you like. If you like multiplayer, keep playing it even if you’re bad. Most games have good matchmaking in place (kind of impossible now for BRs due to the number of variables) so that lower skilled go against lower skilled so that it’s even playing field. Don’t let anyone take out the joy you experience while playing it. Like you said, you rage, smash stuff, heck you probably try doing backflips knowing you’ll fail cause you just need to fume out that excess energy. That means your passionate about it. If you didn’t care about losing/winning, mp games and so on you wouldn’t do those things. You can get frustrated, that’s natural. Venting is a way of dealing with it. It’s the same as ppl working out when they’re mad or ppl going to seek professional help to talk things out. Everybody needs a way to offload problems.
Everyone has a ceiling. Maybe yours isn’t that high but don’t worry about it. You can even say beforehand that you’re not very good in mp matches...

I am guilty of calling ppl noobs or stupid too (usually I’m well contained to not go further than that)... mic is muted but I unmute just to say those stuff cuz I know if I say it unmuted I’ll still have the urge to be bad... sometimes I throw controller... usually against pillow... sometimes not...

But the takeaway is, no matter if you suck at something, as long as you enjoy it, even if it frustrates you, keep going. Cause if we all stop doing things we like, what else is there left... <— damnit sounded so poetic in my head with sad music XD.
Daze623
5 years ago
@jokool_aid I think you just need to take a break. Ofcourse you can quit if you really want to but don't forget that games are meant to be fun. I think the reason you feel like that is that you're putting way too much time and effort and obviously you'd want to see results but like the old saying "You are your own worst critic" you're expecting way too much for yourself. Instead of comparing yourself to others compare yourself to your old self and see how much you improved. Also the game did not took pity on you, the game doesn't care who you are, you improved that's why they look new or less experienced.
It's okay to complain. It's okay to get mad. We're all human after all.
ILostT0Loba
5 years ago
@Koochi-QSame. If one of my teammate lands solo across the map, I am the one to type 'Die idiot' as I see his HP go from 100 to 0. I don't care if people say it's toxic, stupid is stupid. Tho I never throw stuff lol, I am too poor for that :D

I had a Bangalore on my team who pushed solo 200 metres away , died and then when I called him out he says 'I am 10000x better than you'. He had 4k badge and all, I gaslighted him into leaving the ranked game before banner timeout. I would rather play duo(2nd was a good random) than rez the guy.
hayhor
Hero
5 years ago
@jokool_aid My advice is this- Only play games or do things that make you happy most of the time. If a game session of apex or other games leaves you angry the majority of the time stop.
LordloshBang
5 years ago
BR(battle royal) games are very easy to rage/get mad at it, you know ?
This game experience as a solo player is beyond terrible. I don`t remember the last time my teammates carry me, when i play with randoms.
I played seriously till the Season 5, and that was the turning point. Now i just come back for a 1-2-3 days somewhere when there is new Season, and to check my level, cause i constantly grind hard on Kovaak for my aim(as well as movement).
And while i constantly getting better in terms of damage per game(its what i actually look as a chart, cause i play aggressively and mostly close to mid range, not using snipers and shotgun at all, mainly AR/SMG, and damage is the most accurate stats to tell me where i`m), the random teammates i`m getting are getting worst and worst. And i don`t even talking about mechanical skill, but to actually have 2 brain cells and to think, or just better listen to what i`m telling them.
Just a simple example, 3 teams left, we all 3 are exchanging, and we are in a good safe position, and i`m screaming just shoot and stay alive(aka don`t jump like a madman to get killed in 2 seconds), and guess what they are doing ? Yeah exactly jump and became a sandwich between the two teams.
And this is constantly.
As far as what to do, this is your choice, but again playing as solo queue is pain in the ....., no matter how good you are.
And as far as your skill, and that you did not improve, then maybe this ain`t your genre. Just maybe find something that fits you. There is so much genre around, and unlike what people said almost all genre require certain amount of skill, so you can improve in them, and feel awarded for spending time on that game.
But if you just love FPS genre, and actually want to improve, just make yourself a good daily routine, get an Aim Trainer, and you will get better, but this ain`t happening overnight, it takes years actually.
lilbabyjoe69
5 years ago
@jokool_aid Apex is a weird game you have to take the losses and just move on. Otherwise it’ll just eat at you every time you lose. It’s taken me about 1k hours to finally start really getting the hang of this game but I also only play solo casually. I was in your boat before then something shifted for me, I kinda stopped stressing about each match, got calmer and started seeing a lot more wins and kills. When you play tense and tilted you’re not going to have a good time, go into each game knowing it’s just a game at the end of the day.

Hope that helps
Deliberus
5 years ago
@jokool_aid "I've broken stuff from raging"

I'd say break a few more valuable items in your reach and all of a sudden you'll have this sudden shock of what you just did and how much damage you just inflicted and how much it'd cost to replace.

Otherwise I'd recommend to simply go for a walk or exercise to wear that hate off.
jokool_aid
5 years ago
Thank you all for the kind and motivating posts! I feel a lot better now.

@Deliberus Thankfully, or should I say unfortunately, I reached that point awhile ago, so the breaking stuff out of rage is in my past.
DoYaSeeMe
5 years ago
@jokool_aid It seems like you have some real challenges ahead of you: getting in control of your emotions, channeling that negative energy into something productive. I'd say it's better to work on these than quit. Quitting is easy, but the problems don't get fixed this way and eventually reappear, be it in gaming or in other aspects of life.
Nightstick24
5 years ago
@jokool_aid Personally, I'd do what you want.

Don't live for other people, or others' expectations. Live for yourself. If you enjoy playing online games then play them and don't feel bad because you feel like you should be doing something else.

Obviously moderation is key, but the most important thing is you and how you feel. If you're finding yourself raging at the games, then maybe you should take a break. Personally I rage at Apex tons, I'm frequently cursing out my teammates to myself - as long as you're not sharing that with them and it stays internal or out loud to yourself I think it's okay.

As for the being worse than people, man do I ever feel you on that! It's awful to play a lot and feel like you're standing still while everyone is sprinting past you.

But, recently I've definitely started to see huge improvements in myself. For me, playing around with my actual settings helped a ton. I lowered my sensitivity a LOT and I've seen a ridiculous improvement in my aim for it. So I'd try playing with settings some for some potentially quick and easy benefits.

Aside from that, the best advice I've heard for improving is a couple things; first off, after every game wait a second and don't isntantly queue for another game. Take a minute to calm down and think about what happened. Why did you win/lose? What could YOU have done better? Blaming your team is cool, and often deserved, but you can't control what your random teammates do - either you find a premade team to play with or you have to just focus on getting better yourself so you can carry.

The second bit of advice is to really hard-focus on improving one thing at a time. Find one area you need to improve on and focus solely on improving that one thing every game. Like for me, I'm absolutely TERRIBLE at super close fights. I land 90% of my shots with a sniper, I'm very comfortable with mid-range, but as soon as it gets close range I start panicing and flailing and I do 12 damage then die. So I'm working on landing super hot, grabbing something like an r-99 or a volt, and getting as close as I possibly can to people. I died a LOT, I had a TON of 3 damage games where I was beyond useless and I was super upset, but coming out the other end of it I don't panic as much in close range fights and I hit my shots. I'm still absolutely atrocious compared to so many people, but it's not an instant game-over if they get close to me, and it's not nearly as frustrating.

But the best advice of all is absolutely to not compare yourself to others. Compare yourself to you from yesterday. If there's improvement it's a win - if there isn't then figure out what you can change to get ANY improvement at all. I found I was starting to get really frustrated with myself after I'd been watching Apex YouTubers while I was eating lunch for a few days. It was frustrating seeing them just casually playing and killing people, seemingly effortlessly, while I was struggling just to not be a burden to my team. But it's important to remember with stuff like YouTube videos that they can cut the bad games and only put together the games they want to show. And everyone has different skill levels. Some people are just naturally better at shooters, and others have put in an incredible amount of effort to get to where they are, dozens of times more than you or I - you just don't see it. You can only really compare yourself to you and try to do better.