Unable to play still

Soooo here is the issue. Like a dummy, I pre-ordered phantom edition on EA App.
Had the bug like everyone else who ordered the game through EA App instead of steam, because like those who did, we wanted to support the company rather than give partial sale to Steam.
Now, since that has been fixed, I have still had nothing but issues. 
This stuff happens at random times while launching or trying to join a match, but the game will close itself down, or force restart my computer. I have adjust my settings to where the resource drawn is under 8GB but when I have my Task Manager up, the moment it the game force closes itself or force restarts itself due to Insufficient Resources, I notice that my CPU usage goes from 12% to 100%, Ram goes from 6% to 100%(I have 64GB DDR5), and then GBU goes from 40% to 100%(3080ti)
Now, because it was pre-ordered there is no spot for me to request refund, I am stuck with less than 3hrs of game play due to this. 
My system performs extremely well with no issues on literally everything else under the sun. 

Very very frustrated with purchasing this through EA and launching it through the EA App. If there was a way to get my CD Key and put it into Steam, I would much rather do that at this point. Or just get full refund and repurchase through Steam.

All Im trying to is play BF6 not play restart pc simulator