Game play

It seems there might be a miscommunication happening here, because your response reads as though you are responding to claims I have never made, and then arguing against those. 

It can feel frustrating for a person to be peppered with arguments, claims, and counterclaims against things they've never said, which may be why you are finding people do not have reasonable discussions. 

I think it is important for people to understand the perspective of the players who are having a similar experience to me and maybe this forum thread will be helpful for others in the future, so I am happy to discuss.

To your main point here: That’s what I am saying people like when ea nerf defense and buff offense. So you like the patch and the path ea is taking?  If anything you want them to go even more in that direction?

I think this is the main area of miscommunication happening. 

Other people might like it when defense is lower and offensive play is easier, but I don't know because that isn't what I was talking about, so it does not apply to me. I didn't say I like the patch or anything similar. My point is there is a difference between what people are experiencing. Some of us are not getting worse defense and easier attacking with updates, we are getting an increasingly broken and laggy gaming experience. So that group of gamers, myself included, don't experience improved attacking play. Attacking play for me is difficult. Defense is also difficult. The midfield, too, is difficult. Because everything is laggy, poorly animated and has issues. This was my main point. 

To answer some of your questions:

1. "Do you have many games end 0-0. " - Yes, or 1-1. It's very much two extremes - if the gameplay is on the slightly better side (e.g. I play at 5 a.m.) then my games are close, low scoring games (which, arguably, they should be, if I am in the correct division for my ability). However, when the gameplay issues are bad (peak hours, usually, when I never play now), then I would leave a game after going 3-0 down, because when the gameplay is bad, I would end up conceding 10 or more goals. But I don't ever play anywhere around peak times unless it's to test if an update has improved the game. 
2. Do you not think pace is the most important stat?  Are you using anyone under 70 pace? 80 pace?  An attacker under 90? -For my main Evo team right now, yes I have a fair few lower paced players including midfielders under 70 pace and attackers under 80. I have won games with that team multiple times when I play early morning. So, I don't think pace is the most important stat, but it can definitely be an important one depending on people's gameplay style and their gameplay experience.
3. Are you using manual offense? Yes. I didn't know until quite recently that the supposed "meta" was running around with your CDM and getting your AI to defend. If I did that, my AI defenders would just stand still and watch people run past them. I control my defence and have the Advanced Defending option on rather than Tactical, so I have control over the types of tackles I do. 
4. When you defend do you find you are giving up pace counter attacks? Sometimes, depends on the game and gameplay.  I am okay at slowing down breakaway counters with manually switching between the one or two defenders who stay back and "sheparding" the attacker towards less threatening areas (like the wings) which gives me more time. But sometimes, yes, I concede on counter attacks which I would expect.
5. Do you see anyone using an attacking formation like 3 atb besides maybe to come from behind?  If defense is easier than offense why don’t you see 3 or even 2 being left behind to take on 4 or more attacker? Again, I did not claim defence is easier than offense, my point was that for the gameplay problems I and some others experience, neither are easy and both are awful. 
   
   

Some of the other things you said are just differences in opinion. I love Evos, for example, they are the only reason I still play. I love building up my custom teams and if Evos were not in the game, I wouldn't have a reason to keep playing. But that's just preference. Everyone has different preferences like that.

Hopefully that offers more context to the angle that I am coming from with the gameplay problems some of us are experiencing.