How many times do I need to make a tackle EA

It's ridiculous. Constantly having to make multiple tackles before I even get a chance at recovering the ball. Why do my players, after making a tackle, suddenly become super slow like they're stuck in the mud, then not even go after the ball they just 'won'? Why does the ball CONSTANTLY  just rebound to my opponents feet? I can't even explain how often this happens, especially after making a tackle in the box. How does a tackled player recover the ball faster than the player that made the tackle?

My god come on EA. Defending is so bad, attackers feel like they're covered in grease, somehow slipping between multiple defenders regardless of physicality. The worst thing is, you're better off letting the AI defend, as soon as you take control of a defender they immediately push a couple of steps out of position, it just makes consistent gaps for attackers. How is it that not playing the game is more rewarding than actually controlling a player?