[PC] MEA MP - I can only connect with a handful of people in matches

   I've been a long time player of this, but recently, 3/4 of the matches I try and join , my character doesnt show up in lobby, my screename only, I cant see the hosts connection level or hear their mic, other people in the lobby, I can hear their mic , and if they host I can join, even with the player I cant connect with is there too, host leaves, and said player gets hosting duties, after 5 seconds or so "connection to the online session has been lost" it seems to vary in severity, but the last couple days, I cant seem to connect with anyone thats not on my friends list, I have been friending everyone I can connect with. Also if we switch, and I host and people I couldnt connect with before, still cant connect to me, its like roles reversed .

    What can I do? I have gigabit internet, on a WIFI 6E mesh network with full strength , wifi 6E on my Z790 motherboard, is there anything I can do ? I really want to keep playing, but its so random, players with sub 200 APEX ,I cant connect, players with 200,000 I cant connect, its all random and I really want it fixed, solo matches get old fast , how do I fix this???!!?

i7 12700K

MSI MAG Z790 DDR4

64 GB DDR4 3600 C16 Corsair vengeance

EVGA 3080 12GB

Samsung 980 Pro NVME

Win 11 up to date

playing on the EA app