I've had the same experience. Fellow BAP goalie :) Alright! It's been so bad for so long, I was wondering if we all existed.
I'll only add one thing to your list of which I too have observed.
I play with the Redwings and guys like Seider and Soderblom are getting absolutely LIT UP with checks. And the thing is... there is literally NO SKATE UP. Guy is standing right next to them and all of a sudden they are on the ground again - coughing up the puck.
And most of the time I get scored against... it is because my defensemen shove the puck to me or put it in the net.