Im sorry for your experience.
Personally speaking tho, this is because of the ridiculous way of distributing crystals among the players implemented in this game. They(your shardmates) are only trying to safeguard their interests; their investments they've made for the past 4 years while you were playing casual(dont take this as an insult).
As someone who is in an all welcoming shard chat, people like you *can* get annoying for us, because we are unsure if trusting you will actually pay, or if you are here only till this meta lasts. Hope you understand, and focus your angst in the correct place.