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Gruffsman's avatar
9 years ago

Adjust trait: Hates Children.

Pardon the wall of ensuing text.

In my game, I have my chosen heir marry a townie. Usually a teenage sweetheart or childhood friend. Someone in their age bracket so they can grow old together. So pretty much whatever traits the townie has, I just roll with it. I have got to play with all sort of traits in all sorts of combinations. I hit the trifecta of traits in my current heirs husband and I thought endless amount of drama and entertainment would follow. But alas, no. So please meet Jeron Tilley:



The handsome devil himself. His traits are Jealous, Mean and Hates Children. He has provided some entertainment. He is a loving, devoted and over-protective husband. His jealous side comes into play a lot. He is always tense when his wife isn't in the same room. When they have a club gathering in the home, if she talks to another male sim, he gets mad, does a jealous animation, the romance/friendship bars take an immediate hit. Tense is his most common mood, as he is always obsessing over his wife. He isn't mean to her, but he does a lot of mischief actions towards her. Passerby sims on the street usually get his rage. My problem with him ... he is the best dang father to his child. Hates children trait has zero affect on his own child.

When she has her kids only clubhouse gathering, he goes into fits. He will go destroy the dollhouse, be all happy that the kids are crying over the broken dollhouse. All of her little friends that are in the club drive him into angry. But when they leave, he wants to cuddle, love on and be a great dad. I wish it to be changed. While no, I don't expect him to be mean to his own child ... but at least tense and not want to spend time, cuddle and auto-hug. If the sim hates children, then just let them hate children, even if it is their own. Just like in life, not all parents are great parents and some parents do not like their own children.

So I think it should be adjusted. If the sim hates children, let them hate children, even if it is their own.
  • Lots of traits needs better tuning to better reflect their personality.

    However I wonder, while they might hate kids, would they really hate their own?
  • "jackjack_k;14842325" wrote:
    They explained that they wont have adults dislike their own children as it triggers child neglect/abuse.

    It's a Teen game. They aren't going to allow teenagers play a game where it's possible for a parent to not be happy for their child.


    Who explained?

    Not liking your child does not equal abuse or neglect.
  • I get what you're saying, but my own experience is somewhat similar to the way the game handles it. I don't like children in RL. They do make me tense. I also never liked my own kids' friends because that's just the way I'm wired.

    However, I loved my own children when they were young, and I loved being around them and spending time with them. They were mine and raised the way I felt they should have been raised. They were raised to be polite, conscientious, mindful of others, and moral.

    They're still the most important part of my life today.

    In my case, I would say your scenario sounds pretty darned close to being realistic. Granted, I never destroyed any doll houses or got angry. I would just take a time out away from the other kids when there were too many around for me to handle.
  • "Zafireria;14843218" wrote:
    Lots of traits needs better tuning to better reflect their personality.

    However I wonder, while they might hate kids, would they really hate their own?


    If a sim has a hate childrens trait, I do not expect the sim to be mean to the child or use mean socials on the child, be it their own or just some random child in the game. Mischief is ok, but not really some of the meaner ones. But under the same token, I also would expect the a sim who hates children not to want to auto-hug and auto-cuddle a child. I would rather have the parent be indifferent. Let the sim who hates children talk to the child, sure. If the child initiates a hug, the parent shouldn't refuse. Let the child sim be the one who initiates it and not the adult who hates children.
  • I agree, but none of them work properly IMO, except for maybe the foodie trait. I'll have a sim fight and then they will happily converse with the other sim like they never fought each another. After the conversation, said sim walks out angry. They have mean traits and everything.
  • Huh so prevent certain autonomous behavior for the trait. That would be super cool.
  • "Gruffman;14841874" wrote:
    "Scobre;14841867" wrote:
    "Gruffman;14841815" wrote:
    And again, I don't want them to be mean to their own children, but they shouldn't want to auto-hug, talk, cuddle either. Some parents in life do not like their own children. Their child will often grow up and it isn't till adulthood that they get closer to their parent. I don't think this should be any different.

    Yeah sounds like a good idea. I would love more depth for many of the negative traits actually.


    I would too actually. I wish a lot of the negative traits were ... enhanced.


    Totally there with you! I like challenging sims. In TS3, I often started a game with a YA and at least one (if not seven) toddler (s).The YA had the worst possible traits to succeed in life and my goal was to make him/her sucessfull anyway without messing up his/her children's life. I filled a whole town with those families, it was so fun to see them around town while playing a new struggling single parent.
  • @Gruffman
    I like that Sims who hates children seem to hate children except their own. In real life most people who hate kids simply hate other people's kids but when they have one or two of their own (by choice or by accident) they end up adoring their own children more than they thought they ever could. I personally would not want my Sim to be tense whenever they're around their own kid because then they'll always be tense since the child will have to live with them but I understand what you mean. Maybe if they could be tense after too much time interacting with their child has passed, like over an hour of socialisation with their child makes them become tense because even people who love their kids get annoyed when they are around them for too long.