Forum Discussion

Seasoned Ace

9 months ago

Solved

Do grief traits go away or are we just stuck with them?

The instant I installed the pack my sim had the Blues Grief Trait.. They were not in mourning, and nobody had died recently. I thought it was just something my sim would have to deal with when someone died or something, but my sim is constantly grieving and gets a couple sad moodlets every day when waking up and one that just keeps reoccurring throughout the day. I've gone to grief counseling, painted, read, basically everything it says to do but it's been two in game weeks, and my sim still has the trait and is constantly stopping to weep even though their overall mood is not sad. It's really annoying.

EDIT: Never mind, it's gone now. Unfortunately, I have no idea what got rid of it. My sim went to gardening club and then went to the Thinned Festival. At the festival I gave the tree a gift, had my tarot read and was scared by a bunch of ghosts until my sim pooped themselves. Was it one of those things that helped? I have no clue.

EDIT EDIT: I've now had two different grief types that went away rather quickly, Holding it Together, (which took 2 days) and another Blues, (Which took 4 days.) Maybe the first Blues grief trait I got was just the game trying to sort out past deaths or maybe I got Blues twice in a row but didn't notice. It all seems to be working now at any rate.

gameplay issue

vyvexthorne
9 months ago
@kittkatann114 Ok, so the one thing we had in common was that both sims had it for 2 in game weeks. Maybe it just takes that amount of time to go away? Guess we'll have to wait until our sims get another grief trait and see if it also takes two weeks to go away.
That's an incredibly long time to have to deal with something like that if it's true.

4 Replies

kittkatann114
9 months ago
Update:: 5 minutes after writing my initial post Blues Grief has decided my sim is ready to move forward in the grieving process and disappeared. How funny. She sat down to practice writing and now it’s gone.
I’ve actually been wondering the same. My sim experienced the loss of a stray cat they were acquainted with some time ago when Blues Grief first popped up. I’m not going to lie, there have been friends dying and most recently (today) a beloved pet passed, but this “trait” has been hanging around for 2 in-game weeks and no amount of exercise, dancing, painting, writing, or meditation is getting rid of it. Not really sure what to do to make it go away either.
vyvexthorne
Seasoned Ace
9 months ago
@kittkatann114 Ok, so the one thing we had in common was that both sims had it for 2 in game weeks. Maybe it just takes that amount of time to go away? Guess we'll have to wait until our sims get another grief trait and see if it also takes two weeks to go away.
That's an incredibly long time to have to deal with something like that if it's true.
kittkatann114
9 months ago
@vyvexthorne I’ve also been dealing with Holding It Together and most recently Anger Grief. They too seem to linger for about two in-game weeks which feels relentless and makes me wish there was a toggle switch for grief because people are constantly dying. I’d say with 80% accuracy that when someone my sim knows dies, one of these grief traits pops up again if it isn’t already in place. Which is aggravating if you just got rid of it. I thought maybe having the Perspective on Death trait would help with this, but no—not really. It doesn’t feel like it changes much of anything except to say that sometimes it seems like grief traits maybe (high emphasis on that maybe) linger for a week instead of two weeks.
vyvexthorne
Seasoned Ace
9 months ago
@kittkatann114 I've decided to try using mods to keep it at bay. Vicky Sims has a mod called Absent Emotions which allows you to purchase traits that can block emotion moodlets. I'll see if blocking sadness keeps the grief trait from popping up.

You have to think that at a certain point, immortal social butterfly sims would just stop being overly affected by the passing of another sim. So if it does work, at least there's a gameplay reason I can use for my sim not ever getting a sad moodlet.

On another point, even though my sim is in constant mourning, they've never been "sad." If being sad is part of the solution to grief, then that's the problem. A measly +3 Sad moodlet from mourning isn't enough to override any other emotion ever. I've always got at least 10 happy moodlets boosting whatever other positive emotion is happening.