So, this is not a bug? And for sure a design choice? Can I say that I hate this and I am very disappointed in this person who decided that this is okey.
I don’t really know how I say this in a friendly manner that this are the first step to learn to create abuse relationships so, I just shut up.
// And don’t say here blabla drama. You can have drama BUT I want to toggle off these calls! Specially this SPECIAL romantic call. Just remove all NS progress calls from people which have it off in settings. I can mod these things out, but console/vanilla player CAN’T.
@daikoyu No, no, we don't know for sure that it's not a bug. I do wonder, based on how harsh some of the other dating interactions can be, but... they could have just forgotten to check and see if you're romantically involved with the caller first.
Now, this report has been moved from bug reports. This is normal a sign that this is a design choice and not a bug. Generally, this romance calls have more issues. I get the crush calls from my married sims, which is really something special, if you ask me! I don’t tolerate cheating in any form and is a sensitive topic for me. I don’t need a remember in sims4 that many humans cheat in real life. (I don’t mind open relationships because its on the term all partners agree with this form)
Generally, all this call which handle romantic interaction are very bad writing and have a touch of abuse. (I would break up with my partner if he touch my things without asking. First rule in a partnership is to trust your partner and not snooping around.)
Yeah, my Sims don't cheat unless I need it for a storyline. (I had a family with an evil and noncomittal wife married to a family-oriented man, they have a teen and she had a baby with someone else and he divorced her and kept the baby.) I don't like cheating; usually if my Sims fall in love as teens they stay together forever! I've been playing since 2017 and have had two divorces. (The other one was just a couple that ended up being poorly matched--she was outgoing and had a huge family that came over constantly and he was a loner that was perpetually tense from seeing his wife's family.)
I don't mind a polyamorous relationship where everyone is on the same page and agrees to the arrangement (and have played that!), but I don't like nonconsensual sneaking around. (I played the Leverage team with Parker/Eliot/Hardison as a committed triad and Nate and Sophie happily married.)
And I think calling up your romantic partner and saying, "Hi, I think so-and-so is cute, should I ask them out?" is obnoxious behavior that should get someone dumped. I mean, if you're not officially dating maybe they're being manipulative and trying to get you to say, "No, I think you should be with me!" but... why not just ask to be boyfriend/girlfriend/partner instead?
That said, I've also seen a YouTuber say, "Tee hee, the Sims 4 is a game about infidelity! we all do it! let's go break up some townie marriages hahaha!" so I do understand that my play style isn't everyone else's play style. No judgment, it's all how you like to play.
That said, yeah, I'm sure it's hard to accommodate both play styles. I've suggested a drama slider before, which is mostly a joke because I don't know how they'd implement that technically, but... yeah.
