Re: Help with close-knit lifestyle / how to ask to be confidant?
I had a similar result when the wife (close knit) asked her husband (people person). He got a hurt sentiment and it really brought their friendship down.
Since they had full friendship, I'm assuming he didn't like being asked because of his people person lifestyle?
I asked about three times and they all resulted in a negative interaction. Asking to be a confidant didn't go away for me, but it could be because their friendship was still "high" enough to just be friends. After all, I didn't want them to hate each other!