Thanks everyone for your suggestions. I did play the game again today and it wasn't as bad this time. Still had issues with having to tell sims to do things more than once and them not taking care of themselves when I was at work with another sim even if I told them to care for self but it wasn't as bad as before. Maybe it was just me getting used to the game again. Just had to play awhile to get back in to it. Despite me still playing the sims 3 fairly often and them both being sims games, sims 4 has a surprisingly different feel to it.