I turn to autonomy that is full, and just watch the family. I really only intervene when they step too out of bounds with my idea for this story. Autonomy works fine for me, if I first play while the ...
I actually prefer to play this way. That way if I need to get some food, something to drink, or use the bathroom I know with the Sims 4 at least they will never die. I play big households too so autonomy is a must for gameplay.