I turn to autonomy that is full, and just watch the family. I really only intervene when they step too out of bounds with my idea for this story. Autonomy works fine for me, if I first play while the ...
I don't play completely like that but it happens a lot with me when I have larger families....which also happens a lot sometimes I can't help myself just see what they get up to while I focus one on or two of them is fun though.