I turn to autonomy that is full, and just watch the family. I really only intervene when they step too out of bounds with my idea for this story. Autonomy works fine for me, if I first play while the ...
I always have full autonomy on. In private I control them, but when they're in a public setting (like a bar or club), I pretty much let them do their own thing.
One thing I learned with autonomy is to never let them have a tv---they will spend the entire day watching it if you let them