I turn to autonomy that is full, and just watch the family. I really only intervene when they step too out of bounds with my idea for this story. Autonomy works fine for me, if I first play while the ...
I have autonomy on full, but then disable it lately for my selected sim, because there seems to be a lot of queue drops lately and this seems to really help. I can control the sim I am actively playing but everyone else goes about their business in the background.