"JoAnne65;c-17275122" wrote:
I didn’t really enjoy that post I must confess. Especially not the part where it’s suggested that people are being negative just because it’s some kind of fashion, a sign of the times. Disregarding that most people here aren’t criticizing the game because they want to be cool or belong to a ‘group’ or something. It’s also not about not seeing the things you want to see (like some spoiled kid). It’s about genuinely being bored when you really really don’t want to be and yet it happens every time you open the game. A game that you know can be so much better (because you’ve actually experienced - and still experience - it can be so much better). Also, all those people are very positive and enthousiastic about other things in life. You should see them in the Sims 2 and Sims 3 section for instance, you’ll hardly recognize them. It really puts me off when people are trying to belittle or downplay other people’s motives just because they don’t feel the same way, coming up with all kind of ‘reasons’ other than thorough arguments and a genuine opinion (talk about being dismissive). Love Sims 4, but grant others their own motives and reasons when they don’t. It’s not like they’re leaving you in the dark as to the why. And it’s not to be cool. If being negative is the new cool, I don’t want to be cool.
Oh it is totally peer pressure influenced. Biggest example of a total 180 of positive to negative is the SimVIP. Funny thing is their critical threads get more posts and responses than their positive ones. But I think we know each other enough to know we don't give into peer pressure. I do agree the game still could be better and yes every Simmer has positive and negative aspects to them and their responses no matter what part of the Sims community they chose to respond in. Yeah I've been belittled and yes I don't like how people try to assume alternative motives for me or why I choose to talk to and befriend the people I do. It's ok being cool is so overrated anyways. I'm not in high school anymore and haven't been for quite some time now. People are dismissive about others in the workplace too. I've just learned that there will always people who will be forever trapped in the high school mentality that labels and how many likes you have matter. Why I like this quote from Aladdin, "There isn’t enough money and power in the world for you to be satisfied." Focusing on these two things whether in the community or in the game will not bring happiness or positivity into someone's life. It is the people plural that bring happiness with another quote from that movie, "It’s them. The people that make it beautiful." First thing we learn in life as a baby is love and I know social media has a huge influence on spreading negativity in the world. There are even studies about it: https://www.bhpalmbeach.com/are-depression-and-social-media-usage-linked/ But I get tired of the blame game of "you are negative, I am positive." Life isn't just black and white like that or one extreme or another. If Sims are going to need more emotions to them, Simmers have to realize that they have a range of emotions too. Perfection is non-existent and honestly if being positive means acting like a robot and repeating praise all the time, I rather stick to my humanity and accept my mistakes. Shows I'm more human that way that I can accept the positive with the negative and everything in between.