my aging is off except for the family i'm playing first my sim married a townie and the townie died the ghost was there then it disappeared and there is no urn or gravestone for him in another family my sim married a townie and they visited another family and the townie died on the lot they were visiting no urn or gravestone to collect but the ghost still appears at the nightclubs and parties I have special "couples graves" In my graveyard but now two of my sims will need to be buried alone