How do you know if they are attracted??

The lack of spontaneity in romantic situations is one of my biggest gripes (apart from the bugs :( ) with sims 4. 2 had the attraction system, the lightning bolts and scope room. In 3 most of my sims eventually rolled a wish to have a first kiss with someone, the ones that didn't died single lol. The sim that I had planned on having a load of kids with wants to get with another man. Cool! But I guess you guys will have to do some adopting :).It gave the illusion that the sims had some sort of control over their own lives (yes I could over rule them if I wished but mostly I chose not to). It made every save that little bit different.

I'm probably gonna be jumped on for this but 4 just feels like I have too much control. Everything is scripted. My sims are slaves. They won't dare cast an admiring glance at another sim without my permission. But I'm a lenient control freak God, I turned on free will. Tell me who you like, what direction you want your life to go and (if it suits my game play) I'll do my best to make things work out well for you.

If you find an answer TheBuffster73 I'll be thrilled. It will make my game much more fun.