How often do your sims go on dates

I'd like to have them go more often, but since I play with households of 6-8 people at any given time, the fact that I basically have to freeze the other 5-7 members of my household just to send one on a date pretty much ruins it for me. Not to mention coming back to all of them with randomized motive levels (which messes up whatever schedule you have them on)! To be honest if I do send my sims on dates when I come home I just cheat everyone's needs so at least they're all on some kind of schedule again. I know it helped reduce the lag but I REALLY miss how in Sims 3 you could send one of your sims out and still control everyone at home too. Heck, I'd even be happy if they just made it so the sims you leave behind stay asleep while the one sim leaves at night, instead of waking up halfway through the night.

The goals don't bother or deter me, they're ridiculously easy, especially if your sim has any kind of relationship with the other sim established already.