Basically I just ignore the ones at residential or other lots. I've been having a similar issue with clubs that are supposed to meet at "any gym" or "any spa" being held at other venues, like bars or restaurants. Also there is an issue where a Sim will get invited somewhere and they end up at a totally different spot; I have a restaurant in San Myshuno named World's View (it serves all the foods from CL); my Sim was invited there but he and the other Sim ended up at Sunny Side Diner in Willow Creek.