What is EA or the Sims 4 don't understand

I thought that wants and fears was interesting in the beginning when I started playing, it added a challenge and the game felt more like a game, I had challenges with how I wanted to play my sim.

But then I quickly noticed how some fears like "fear of dead-end job" and "fear of unwanted dreams" just kept popping up. It feels like this is the case so often in The Sims 4, some features just keep activating themselves consistently...

I would be more fine with it if it wasn't happening so often, and didn't punish other sims in the household because I am playing another sim.

Wants and fears, imo, should be optional for the player like likes and dislikes. Ask before giving it to them, ya know?

But I agree, I'm not against challenges, I actually have played the rags to riches one a few times, but I sort of just want the Sims to live as I want in other games. In still others, I wish I could set rules on other aspects- like making payments for jobs bigger or smaller.

Also agree the pack leaders should be able to choose the rules for the packs.

I love the wants themselves though some would be better if they were made a little more cohesive like a Sim not randomly wanting to break up with their spouse unless relations spoilt, or they found themselves a Sim they dated much better.

It's the fears really. The same fears pop up all the time for me, if that Sim has to leave the lot to work. They will be guaranteed to get a fear of their job without fail, their job to their personality doesn't matter, their lack of disliking comittment doesn't matter, being at the top of your job doesnt' matter, getting promoted doesn't matter, changing jobs doesn't matter, even my workaholics are getting the fear! The only thing you can do is remotivate them which leaves them without the fear for a few days before it inevitably comes back.

Also every elderly Sim I've made has a fear of death straight out of CAS until I turn wants and fears on and off again to make it go away, that's just grim especially in a game where dying is a slap on the wrist as the ghosts of your Sim's now dead grandparents will call you to go bowling a day later.