I'm always curious about how other people play, and I haven't seen a poll quite like this. I myself would have to choose option 8 because I play an ISBI-type challenge with several families.
Full autonomy but I like challenges and legacies, and when family members move out of the homestead I do a little rotational play to check in on them. But my main focus is on one family, and every generation I pick a “main character” to carry out some challenge.