Why is it rude to cook at somebodys house?

"StrawberryYogurt;c-17400633" wrote:
Its not somerhing to "fix" since its always been a part of the series, my question is why is it a feature anyways. I guess to stop your from living in someone else's house?

It hasn't always been there. I had a Sim who was homeless in this game at the first. He went around to homes and cooked, showered and slept in TS4. I loved that. Because I am their god. I rule all houses. Lol But anyway it was patched to the best of my knowledge to be inapproriate when they needed to make Always Welcome more relevant than it was because at first it did nothing because Sims were always welcome anyway.

First time my friend helped herself in my mother's kitchen I was aghast. This was in RL. I was raised you just don't do that, nor do you touch the items on your friend's dresser top. You don't peek into cabinets in their bathroom, either. Also, we never, ever, EVER just walked in. Took me a very long time to even just walk-in at my parents' house after I moved out. Even then I would knock as I was opening the door.

It's strange to think of the societal rules of good behavior that once were. This appears to be a hold-over, especially when the Sims are family. That one doesn't make sense to me, despite how I was raised. If our Sims were given the interaction to 'ask' first, but there isn't such an interaction, else they should be free to prepare food. It's very hard when the active Sim is the 'guest' and the host Sim is starving, for instance. The natural response is to have the active Sim fix some food. Just to be scolded and/or asked to leave the premises. :open_mouth:

I can understand why they have it for friends houses. I wouldn't just go to a friends house IRL and start cooking with out asking first. But with family I don't get why they would kick you out. I wouldn't kick out my siblings if they came over just because they wanted to cook something.

It would be nice if you could set restrictions for Sims you invite over. Like don't read my books, or eat MY leftovers or stand in the bathroom using my mirror... I invited you over to talk, not to be a bad guest.

At least the computer security settings is a step in the right direction.

"Cinebar;c-17400867" wrote:


It hasn't always been there. I had a Sim who was homeless in this game at the first. He went around to homes and cooked, showered and slept in TS4. I loved that. Because I am their god. I rule all houses. Lol But anyway it was patched to the best of my knowledge to be inapproriate when they needed to make Always Welcome more relevant than it was because at first it did nothing because Sims were always welcome anyway.

Idk why it wasnt in TS4 since inception, but its always been in the series is what I meant.

Exactly! A “ask permission to....” interaction would make sense.

"Netzspannung;c-17400649" wrote:
I would personally consider it extremely rude IRL if anyone came to my house to cook, shower or sleep - even more so if they'd try to feed my pet or toddler - without asking first. So my question would not be why this is in the game, but rather why you cannot ask for permission to do certain things while you are at another Sim's house. For close friends and family the answer should always be yes. But since the 'Always Welcome' trait, which has been mentioned a bunch of times in this thread, is so cheap it doesn't really bother me while playing the game.

@Feisbukaite yeah that is one of my biggest annoyances when visiting a different household that has small children. When visiting all of a sudden the sim your playing is responsible for the welfare of another sim’s offspring. I can’t cook at your place but I’m supposed to take care of your kids, that’s messed up.

@marcel21 you are right I don’t have to, but if my sim is visiting another household that I’m also playing, I do have to because I will get that notification that “so and so is hungry and if you don’t feed her soon she will be taken away”, even though that kid is NOT part of my currently played household. I don’t want to go back to that household later to find the toddler had been taken away, so it is an issue; and sims need to be smarter about feeding their own kids.

"JC1979;c-17403674" wrote:
@marcel21 you are right I don’t have to, but if my sim is visiting another household that I’m also playing, I do have to because I will get that notification that “so and so is hungry and if you don’t feed her soon she will be taken away”, even though that kid is NOT part of my currently played household. I don’t want to go back to that household later to find the toddler had been taken away, so it is an issue; and sims need to be smarter about feeding their own kids.

That drives me nuts. When I get the notification, I end the visit and leave usually lol. (They self care apparently if my sims aren't there as the kids don't get taken unless I'm in the home)

Question has anyone tried paying the host houses family long enough to give your sim a residence key and then gone back to your Sim. Would that solve it? Or not? just an idea I had but I can't get on to check right now

I must confess that I would have been a bit shocked if someonwe visiting me in RL suddenly disappeared and a bit later could be found cooking food in my kitchen... But seriously, I think it would be fun to have our sim (or guest) suggesting to the other that they could cook something together.

Btw: There is a trait that allows your sim to behave like home at other sim's houses.