Why is it rude to cook at somebodys house?

"GalacticGal;c-17400935" wrote:
First time my friend helped herself in my mother's kitchen I was aghast. This was in RL. I was raised you just don't do that, nor do you touch the items on your friend's dresser top. You don't peek into cabinets in their bathroom, either. Also, we never, ever, EVER just walked in. Took me a very long time to even just walk-in at my parents' house after I moved out. Even then I would knock as I was opening the door.

It's strange to think of the societal rules of good behavior that once were. This appears to be a hold-over, especially when the Sims are family. That one doesn't make sense to me, despite how I was raised. If our Sims were given the interaction to 'ask' first, but there isn't such an interaction, else they should be free to prepare food. It's very hard when the active Sim is the 'guest' and the host Sim is starving, for instance. The natural response is to have the active Sim fix some food. Just to be scolded and/or asked to leave the premises. :open_mouth:

When my homeless SIm visted some of the other Sims (when they were all always welcome before a patch) those Sims were very hungry but wouldn't cook. I thought my Sim was being nice by offereing to cook a meal. lol It would be great if they would now patch a code to be able to ask ,may I use your bathroom? Of course we all ask, even family in RL. Or at least may I cook a meal for you? That would be great.

yea funny how this sound my sims were invited for dinner person almost burn the house down so thought to make my help with the cooking but nope didn't get kicked out but npc sure got steamed at her doing so like why willing burn a house down but don't want help so I made my sims leave to a to eat at restaurant. even part of a club invited over thought allowed to but nope my sims sat there be bored out her mind. But I invite a sim over there all over place touch bookcase or taking trash out or swimming my pool like are you serious is keep these locked or don't invite anyone over anymore only her bf or his GF another person like heck nope.

Hmm, guess I grew up around a group of people that were different than the "norm". I had a couple of my friends parents come straight out and say "If you go hungry, it's your own fault. You know were the kitchen is.". Granted, I never just wandered into the kitchen to grab something to eat unless my friend was getting something also.

Anyway, like others said, if it becomes a problem I just buy or cheat in Always Welcome.

I had a Sim join that cooking club, and the first meeting was at Clara's house. What do you do at a cooking club? Well obviously you get told off by the host for trying to cook, even though the rest of the club is doing the same.

*eyeroll*

I just buy the Always Welcome trait, then try not to abuse it. Except for comedy. Anything for comedy.

I always thought this was a stupid feature. I used to have my sims (me and my brothers) go to grandma's house and attempted to take food out of the refrigerator and sleep in the bed. They would always get yelled at. I also made a cooking club in the sims 4 and whenever I was invited to another sim's house, I would get yelled at for being inappropriate. How can it be inappropriate when you are doing cooking club?

Friends and family should get higher privileges than a stranger off the street.

It’s rude to take showers even if it’s your daughters house to?

I was playing a second household of a son of the father and mother (my main characters), who was getting married to his soon-to-be wife, but the hired cook never made a cake to finish the wedding objectives. The time was running low, so I got my guy to cook a cake for his own wedding in his parents home. But he got kicked out of his own wedding for 'uninvited' cooking. HAHAHA!!!
WHAT???!!! :D :D :D

"Emo-usagi2187;c-17408136" wrote:
yea funny how this sound my sims were invited for dinner person almost burn the house down so thought to make my help with the cooking but nope didn't get kicked out but npc sure got steamed at her doing so like why willing burn a house down but don't want help so I made my sims leave to a to eat at restaurant. even part of a club invited over thought allowed to but nope my sims sat there be bored out her mind. But I invite a sim over there all over place touch bookcase or taking trash out or swimming my pool like are you serious is keep these locked or don't invite anyone over anymore only her bf or his GF another person like heck nope.

The sequence described of invite-fire-help-confrontation sounds pretty awesome to me. That's some grade A sims chaos, and it seems like everyone had a delightfully awful time.

"Admiral8Q;c-17411848" wrote:
I was playing a second household of a son of the father and mother (my main characters), who was getting married to his soon-to-be wife, but the hired cook never made a cake to finish the wedding objectives. The time was running low, so I got my guy to cook a cake for his own wedding in his parents home. But he got kicked out of his own wedding for 'uninvited' cooking. HAHAHA!!!
WHAT???!!! :D :D :D

This also sounds amazing.

"Netzspannung;c-17400649" wrote:
I would personally consider it extremely rude IRL if anyone came to my house to cook, shower or sleep - even more so if they'd try to feed my pet or toddler - without asking first. So my question would not be why this is in the game, but rather why you cannot ask for permission to do certain things while you are at another Sim's house. For close friends and family the answer should always be yes. But since the 'Always Welcome' trait, which has been mentioned a bunch of times in this thread, is so cheap it doesn't really bother me while playing the game.

This exactly. I'm fine with things being in the game that mimic life and IRL, even if my bestie came to my house, she would not just walk in, take a shower, get on my computer and make her a sandwich. She'd ask, and of course, I'd say yes, but she wouldn't just help herself. And a less close friend (not a bestie) wouldn't even ask, as that's rude to help yourself to others things.

I do wish we had an "ask" feature, but with the always welcome only being 500 aspiration points (which you can get that from one gold holiday, not to mention several aspirations, in less than a day) I don't worry about it.

"CelSims;c-17401256" wrote:

"ddd994;c-17400631" wrote:
Lol well it’s not rocket science, you can’t go bum off other sims and their homes? A) yes cooking, showering and sleeping are inappropriate activities to do around somebody else’s home. B) it’s a difficulty measure, you can’t start a new game and go bum of the landgrabs. C) you can earn aspiration traits to over ride this (pretty sure it’s like dirt cheap too)...

It’s clearly not a glitch? Why are people always trying to pacify this game ? Isn’t the sims 4 easy enough already?

While I agree pertaining to strangers and even friends, my own family are perfectly ok with a child coming home from Uni wanting to have a shower, food and a bed for a night or seven. I wouldn't dream of yelling at my brother for using my microwave or bathtub.....

I don't really agree with that. I think it's very rude, even for family to help themselves without asking (with the only exception being my children that are grown and moved out) but even then, they are polite enough to ask permission first. Both my grown children know anything in my house is welcome to them, but I also raised them to be polite and they ask before helping themselves.

On the same note, I would never just go help myself to anyone's items without asking first. Not even my mothers. When I go to my mother's house, and I get thirst, I ask, "Do you have something to drink?" I would never just go get in her fridge without permission.

Again, I think a "ask permission for..." would be great (as mentioned by another simmer) but having the always welcome works fine for me, I just do a few socials and "pretend" I asked permission. (We sure do have to pretend a lot for a life simulator).

@DivieOwl Very insightful. I agree with you on that.