Will sims find their own romance?

Also, just to clarify, this is for my active sim. Not background story progression.

Unfortunately, without a mod, mostly the relationships will stay platonic. Some rare cases after you max charisma will use the Enchanting introduction or the flirty one.. (which will do terrible things to current relationships if your mate is near) But just out-right flirting with a bff has never happened to me in my game.

If you do nothing romantic, nothing will happen.
If you get her and/or one of her friends to be Flirty and have them socialize, they might flirt and have a pink bar but then you would probably have to do it from there.

Yeah, I knew I would have to do the work afterwards, I just was hoping someone would show interest or she would show interest in someone. She is also a teenager, so maybe she’s just a late bloomer. I thought maybe about putting her in a flirty club. But, again, all that drama. Ugh.

Is this even possible. I mean I don't think I've ever had my sim fall in love by themselves. I've always pick someone for them or made a new sim just for them.

I find it hit or miss honestly. I've had sims that never seem to flirt with anyone to ones that latch on to a specific sim almost immediately, though that is pretty rare. My latest sim met Caleb Vatore shortly after moving in since he was the welcome wagon and I had her flirt with him once. Well, he asked her out all the time and she was always rolling up wants with him. I was surprised, since it is normal for me to have to choose someone and just go from there.

I really miss having an attraction system in this game. Half the time I match sims together only for one of them to decide that they like someone else...usually someone who is already married.

There are two ways I can think about: throw a party with a flirty area item in the house or start a group gathering with the flirty mood. It could happen that your male friends start to flirt with each other instead of her, that's how sims 4 works.. sims in flirty mood flirt with everything.

If you want it more random, you could do it this way. When you first click on a sim to 'interact with', before going to 'more', it pulls up a list of 'suggestions' varying from friendly, mean, and flirty. If you see a romantic or 'flirt' option appear; take it that your sim is interested and make them flirt.

Also, I think I've had a sim roll the 'flirt with' whim before, but I can't remember if it was only with/for sims I've told them to flirt with before or were already in a couple with.

But no, I don't think your controlled sim will ever flirt with someone autonomously unless you've allowed that interaction before or they are near flirty items.

Your active sim typically has to initiate it as there is no story progression in this game.

But you could try taking your sim to the romance festival as sims tend to be flirty there if you have City Living EP.

Another way you can do this is to let whims dictate who she pursues. Even though you still have to initiate the interactions, at least the decision making is out of your hands.