Re: Can't find urn of my played sim who died whilst I was playing another family.
@SianAF148 Hello! I've had this happen a couple of times and it's really aggravating. A couple of times the sim died while I was playing a different household and I was able to find the urns by going into their home lot. One was by the front door, the other was by another sim's urn. So if your sim died while playing another household, maybe try looking around their home lot for the urn or in their household inventory as @jpkarlsen suggested.
If you're on PC or Mac and don't mind using the MCCC mod, then here are the steps I took when I couldn't find an urn (these are based on the most recent public version of MCCC)
1- Play a sim who has a relationship with the ghost sim for whom you want the urn
2- Go to the relationship panel, click on the ghost, choose the MCCC option -> Sim Commands -> Maintain Sim -> Revive Sim
3- Invite the newly revived sim to hangout, then when they show up use the friendly interaction "Ask to Join Household" (they should maintain all relationships)
4- Once the newly revived sim is back in the household and on the lot, click on that sim, choose the MCCC option -> Sim Commands -> Maintain Sim -> Kill Sim (choose type of death from the list)
That last step seems a bit harsh but at least you'll have the urn. Or maybe you just want your sim back, then you could just stop at step 2 or 3. :-)
