My sims 4 isnt working, not doing commands.

Most recently i've been having issues with sim commands, specifically when toddlers have a toy in hand and doesn't let go of it or a adult with a book in hand and won't let go of it, they walk around with it everywhere, if i try get a order for a sim, the new orders just vanish. i have to interact with the item they are holding and get them to use it and then tell them to put it away so they can take orders properly again. on occasion, i can't get them to remove the item out of their hand, i save exit the game and reload the game and save, the item is stuck mid air upside down or in a wall, unreachable to sims when stuck in a wall and have to go into build mode to move the item.

Most recently i've been playing one of my custom families; the Alderra family. i had to go through the run around to get Jasmine to put down this cup and get back to a now dead Julian and try to plead for his life from the grim reaper for one more day. almost didin't make it to do that.