@Andipoodle, I havn't forgotten about you, I've just been busy with family and haven't had time to play but for a tiny bit. ๐ถ I'm still trying to get the Childhood Enemies status for some Sim siblings to see what causes it, and if anything can be done about it, either in game play, or cheats , etc. ๐ค
I understand how difficult it is when you are new to a game and still trying to learn the ropes (and then something goes wrong!) With Sims 2 and 3 there used to be the Prima Strategy guides that you could buy and they would be a humongous help, but they don't make those for TS4. ๐ข
As for your Grim Reaper problem, I'm not sure ... it might be because he is an NPC and not normally in a playable household. I've known of people who have added him to their game, but I have never done it in TS4. The only NPCs I've added to my family are some repairmen whom were stuck on my lot and I tried to add to my family to see if that unstuck them, it did but another one filled his place and was also stuck! LOL๐
Is the Grim Reaper in the same household as Adrian & Judas? ๐ค
I've only just now tried the Grilled Cheese Aspiration in my game. This aspiration was added about a year or so ago in order to celebrate a Sims anniversary along with the Tragic Clown, the Cow Plant, and the Kleptomaniac trait. ๐ฅณ The Tragic Clown was in TS1, the Grilled Cheese Aspiration and the Cow Plant was in TS2, and the Klepto trait was in TS3. When they added these to TS4, I didn't play with the Grilled Cheese Aspiration because I was too busy making and playing my Tragic Clown family (the LaRue's) and I forgot about the new Grilled cheese Aspiration! But I loved that aspiration in TS2 and had a lot of Grilled Cheese Sims running around my neighborhoods! I had even made a house entirely out of orange, yellow, white, and brown for a family of Grilled Cheese Sims! โค๏ธ
As I play with my new TS4 Grilled Cheese Sim, I will see if I can have her reach the top of her aspiration without using cheats, and if I find out how, I will share the info with you! But first I will try to find out more about the Childhood Enemies status for you! ๐
Happy Simming!