There are too many variables to consider when judging your neighboreenos. This game has developed a lot of technical issues, like crashing or not being able to log in, to name a few. One of my neighbors had his friends list dumped after the Valentine's Day update.. I had their main town and six feeder towns on my friends list. Only their main town disappeared from my list....the feeder towns were still there but inactive. I had to delete them. The only way I knew what happened was when I sent them a pm. You don't know the circumstances behind the inactivity, so you have to be a little tolerant.