Ideas
Not sure if this is related, but I have a similar problem with sinks. Maybe I'm a monster, but my sims have lost the privilege of having sinks. Which is a pity, because there are some attractive sinks in the game.
Say a sim has a red bladder (quick fix, can be delayed) or yellow/near red. Something else is more urgent now. If the sim completes a queue while I'm dealing with another sim, what do they do? Drink water and leave glasses everywhere. Or maybe hygiene is getting low. (Another quick fix that might be delayed.) The shower is better and faster, and something else is more urgent. What do the sims do? Wash hands. They also wash dishes. I usually have a dumpster in the back of my lot. I like dishes to go in that rather than be washed. I don’t normally use the money trashcan, but that’s another situation where dish washing wouldn’t be helpful.
I like that we can now set sinks as kitchen vs bathroom, but I would like to turn them off for automated use or select which sink actions sims can do automatously.