Honestly, my recommendation for everyone who wants to keep their sanity... Just play and don't care about how you do. Don't care about what your team says, don't care about what people expect you to do. I've played another bunch of matches today and I just realize that even my horrible failure doesn't really decrease the difficulty I'm faced up against. The game just keeps on getting more difficult for you as you go on. Your enemies get better, you maybe don't but that's not a concern to the responsible people. If the game really believes that I'm equal to someone with a Wraith and 3 million lifetime damage, as someone who has at highest 100k lifetime damage on Pathfinder, then I can't change it.
Enemies will always aim better than you.
Enemies will always move better than you.
Enemies will always have the more favorable outcome.
And if you do good for once, the game immediately perceives you a pro.