Yep, that's because BioWare knows it's what draws the majority of fans to the game, you only need to look at the art, the stories, the mods to see the truth, so it really feels like we've been lied to. These romances are more Mass Effect style than Dragon Age. In fact, the whole game feels like it's been ported on to the ME2 gameplay style. For Dragon Age, it's always been flirt in act 1, romance in act 2, and declaration of love or something like that in act 3. Instead we get lukewarm conversations and no actual romance until the end.