Autonomous romantic relationship creation

 I am not sure exactly what happened here, as there was a bunch of people around and a large group conversation was going on and I was having my sim admire the paintings for an aspiration he is working on. Next thing I know, that music sounds and the wall notification pops up that says romantic satisfaction has started and I'm like WHAAAAAAT????  Turns out it was with this woman on the bench that he was not even interacting with as far as I could see. He is standing in the rear in red pants. Nor would he want to with a bag like her as I know his likes and dislikes and she definitely does not mesh with any of them, fitness being a main one off the top of my head. 

Regardless of all this, I am God when it comes to everything, and I would REALLY appreciate it if a pop up notification asking me if I want to allow this romantic relationship to be created would happen. Because now I have to go hunt her down in manage families and delete her in order to get her removed from his relationship panel. And that sucks because maybe she is a fun person. She is a paparazzi and I've seen her around before and she seems smiley and good natured. Unfortunately, this flirtation means her doom. 

It would be hugely cool to be able to approve any romantic relationship creations please. Or. at the very least, make it so that when a sim asks another sim to just be friends that the romance bar totally goes away. I could totally go for that because it drives me wild with ex's that it still remains bc my sim will get into a new relationship and then run into the ex's at a club and this makes autonomous flirting happen when it normally would not. My sim is a loyal guy and he doesn't do that. But, it did happen because of that and I had to be careful when the ex's were around. It finally annoyed me so much that I deleted the ex's from the game a couple of days ago because that game mechanic just can wreck things when it should not. I mean if flirting was something he was prone to do, that is one thing. But he is not. It's because of that romance bar and if there is no romance going on and people are just friends, then there would not be any flirting or romance creation and therefore there should be no romance bar. Even if the bar is empty that does not matter. It still exists and makes the sims do romantic things more easily. 

So yeah, that would solve everything. Asking to just be friends removes the romance bar. ALL problems solved on that end and I don't have to be a murderer :)