Sims 4 is there a way to stop male sims from automatically cleaning and cooking?

I would like to say very quickly: Sims is a whimsical game for doing bizarre, funny and morbid scenarios, from feeding grandmothers to cowplants to woohooing as many occults as possible. No judgement for creative playstyles from me, and hopefully not from others either.

The best solution I can think of, does not solve 100% but a good deal anyway: lock men of the household out of the kitchen and nursery, and perhaps lock toddlers into a nursery. Neither sounds very nice but hey, it'd the dark ages. :D Also perhaps place your laundry into the kitchen too, or lock a separate laundry room from the menfolk.

Have you tried the slob or lazy traits to see if they prevent or at least reduce cleaning? Not sure if there's a similar trait for cooking, but you could try the simple living lot challenge and then keep all the ingredients in your cook's personal inventory rather than the fridge. As for taking care of kids... only thing I can think of may not be acceptable to your storyline, but if the game doesn't recognize the father as the child's father but rather just a housemate, they'll be more likely to ignore said child.

For babies though, you'll still have to lock them in a room somewhere where only people you want caring for them can reach, otherwise every man, woman, and child on or near the lot will go check on them as soon as they cry.