Adopted or Genetic child?

"paradiseplanet;d-933844" wrote:
Okay the title maybe a bit confusing but I'll explain:

Meet Aditya Savalani (left) and Matthew Waters (right). Both are Townies which I now play, and both have their own little stories about how they got where they are.

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So before I picked up Aditya, he had been working as a Postal Worker around town with no family apart from himself. Since he was a YA then and quite handsome for a townie, I decided to keep him around and have him bunk with Miko Ojo in San Myshuno. This was before I actually played him though so he continued to age until they just became Adults in which I finally started playing him. I decided that Aditya would become a homebody and make his money painting and occasionally some programming work. He came with the City Native aspiration and so this gave him lots of time to work on it (especially the mastering Singing part which moving him in with Miko was also a good idea; Akira and Darling I moved out before then). Interestingly enough this free time allowed him to meet Matthew Waters, his future husband, but when he first met him he was a teen, so I had to wait even longer until he grew up.

Matthew came from a family that consisted of his single mother Kristyn and his younger sister Maliyah. I monitored his age closely and when he just reached YA, I moved him with Miko as well. The romance started a bit rocky between them but it began to soon blossom well, and when Aditya became an Adult, the best present he ever had was their Heat of the Moment Marriage at the arch at the Romance Festival. Unlike Aditya, Matthew wanted to be a Bestselling Author, and what better to help him achieve that then entering him into the Writer career, which also made his own mother his Co-Worker. Time went by further and his mother soon retired, then died, leaving Maliyah as his only family. I decided sometime ago this won't do and created a son for her, Kenya Waters, Matthew's only nephew. Bad news is Kenya did not have the best genes and he had terrible traits to boot when he became a YA (plus his household became bugged) and so preceded to send Kenya to live in a cursed apartment and his only nephew died by eating bad pufferfish nigiri, to which I ceremoniously transferred the family money, a good sum of 30,000 to Matthew. >:)

But the actual reason for this title concerns what happens next with this couple. Now that Miko has found a man to start a family with, the appt they all used to live in together is cramped and it was time for the couple to move out. I decided they shouldn't move far away and took the opportunity to move to the Penthouse in the Fashion District, and they being the only two living there. Seeing as Aditya is a middle-aged homebody and Matthew is the YA breadwinner, I was thinking it was time for them to start a family as well. Seeing as they're both men, usually it wouldn't be possible for them to birth a child, but this is the Sims still so that question is irrelevant to me. What is relevant is if: should they have an adopted child or one genetically created through CAS by me?

Seeing as both are the only living members of their family, I'd like to save their genetics to a prospective child, but there are some issues: 1) I feel that I should not ever make them a toddler, because I I don't want the hassle of it in this household, and 2) both of their traits are pretty bad; Aditya is Clumsy, Hot-Headed, but Outgoing, and Matthew is a Lazy Slob who loves Music. It's not that their traits would necessarily be bad with genetics in Sims, but rather would make for a mess if I gave them a toddler from their own genes.

The other option is of course adopting, which would be far easier for me, but then the child wouldn't have their genetics which defeats the point of me wanting to save their genetics to start a family with the household. So could fellow simmers here help me with suggestions on what should be best for these two who want to start a family but still carry on their genes? I'm only going to give them one child for now, though.

When my Sims have offspring, I usually give them one trait from one parent when they hit the Child age, then for teen it's a trait from the other parent, then at YA a trait that neither parent has. So you could take Outgoing from Aditya for the Child trait (good trait if you want to go for Social Butterfly aspiration) then maybe Music Lover from Matthew, then maybe you throw a wrench in the works. Or Clumsy isn't too bad if you don't mind dishes breaking when they wash them in the sink. That way you could get the genetics and not necessarily worry about bad traits.