I'm doing the legacy challenge. And I've struggled a little with relationships in Sims 4 (it took me a little over a sim week to get mine and hubby's simselves together and married and pregnant - and that's living together). Well, now in my legacy challenge my sim met a guy and has been building the green relationship bar. We're about half way so I thought I'd do some romantic interactions... only to find out he's married already!So, my question... can you split up relationships and marriages in Sims 4 like you could in Sims 3? Is it the same way "Ask to break up"? I do not want to lose all the time I've invested in this sim and have to start over.

"WriterJunkie;779265" wrote:I'm doing the legacy challenge. And I've struggled a little with relationships in Sims 4 (it took me a little over a sim week to get mine and hubby's simselves together and married and pregnant - and that's living together). Well, now in my legacy challenge my sim met a guy and has been building the green relationship bar. We're about half way so I thought I'd do some romantic interactions... only to find out he's married already!So, my question... can you split up relationships and marriages in Sims 4 like you could in Sims 3? Is it the same way "Ask to break up"? I do not want to lose all the time I've invested in this sim and have to start over. Rest easy - you can totally be that homewrecker you've always dreamed of for the low low cost of convo spamming to win his heart *nods*

"ShalimarX;12588748" wrote:yeah there's a Divorce option under the MEan social listing.And it took a week? Took my guy 3 sims days to meet a random townie, smooze her, woo her and marry her.Next day asperations wanted me to try for baby ;)I think the OP means is there an option to ask another sim to break up with their spouse, so that they can get married instead. I can't answer this myself because I've been waiting all day for the game to arrive (!!!!!!), but have you tried rotating to that household and manually splitting them up? From what I hear you can do this quite easily in TS4 and you won't lose anything in your current household. Unless of course he's a townie, then I don't know what to do :neutral_face:

You just need to ask the sim to become your girlfriend/boyfriend first then under the romance options you should get Convince to leave Spouse =).

yeah there's a Divorce option under the MEan social listing.And it took a week? Took my guy 3 sims days to meet a random townie, smooze her, woo her and marry her.Next day asperations wanted me to try for baby ;)

Awesome! Thanks, both of you. @Shalimar - I know! It's crazy. Most others aren't struggling, but for some reason I am. I'll get it figured out soon enough *I hope*. ;)

Breaking up a relationship/marriage

DaCrackseed
11 years ago
"WriterJunkie;779265" wrote:
I'm doing the legacy challenge. And I've struggled a little with relationships in Sims 4 (it took me a little over a sim week to get mine and hubby's simselves together and married and pregnant - and that's living together).

Well, now in my legacy challenge my sim met a guy and has been building the green relationship bar. We're about half way so I thought I'd do some romantic interactions... only to find out he's married already!

So, my question... can you split up relationships and marriages in Sims 4 like you could in Sims 3? Is it the same way "Ask to break up"? I do not want to lose all the time I've invested in this sim and have to start over.

Rest easy - you can totally be that homewrecker you've always dreamed of for the low low cost of convo spamming to win his heart *nods*
Boogaloo93
11 years ago
"ShalimarX;12588748" wrote:
yeah there's a Divorce option under the MEan social listing.

And it took a week? Took my guy 3 sims days to meet a random townie, smooze her, woo her and marry her.

Next day asperations wanted me to try for baby ;)

I think the OP means is there an option to ask another sim to break up with their spouse, so that they can get married instead. I can't answer this myself because I've been waiting all day for the game to arrive (!!!!!!), but have you tried rotating to that household and manually splitting them up? From what I hear you can do this quite easily in TS4 and you won't lose anything in your current household. Unless of course he's a townie, then I don't know what to do :neutral_face:
zoe12787
11 years ago
You just need to ask the sim to become your girlfriend/boyfriend first then under the romance options you should get Convince to leave Spouse =).
Xiane34
11 years ago
yeah there's a Divorce option under the MEan social listing.

And it took a week? Took my guy 3 sims days to meet a random townie, smooze her, woo her and marry her.

Next day asperations wanted me to try for baby ;)
xoChelleJoxo
11 years ago
Awesome! Thanks, both of you.

@Shalimar - I know! It's crazy. Most others aren't struggling, but for some reason I am. I'll get it figured out soon enough *I hope*. ;)
phyllisp160
New Spectator
11 years ago
"WriterJunkie;779265" wrote:
I'm doing the legacy challenge. And I've struggled a little with relationships in Sims 4 (it took me a little over a sim week to get mine and hubby's simselves together and married and pregnant - and that's living together).

Well, now in my legacy challenge my sim met a guy and has been building the green relationship bar. We're about half way so I thought I'd do some romantic interactions... only to find out he's married already!

So, my question... can you split up relationships and marriages in Sims 4 like you could in Sims 3? Is it the same way "Ask to break up"? I do not want to lose all the time I've invested in this sim and have to start over.

Yes, it can be done. It took a lot of courting on my Sim's part, though, because I guess the object of his affection had a really strong relationship with her spouse. Some time has passed and they've had their first child, but she sometimes still gets sad because of the divorce.
JennaSaisQuoi58
11 years ago
Do you think their could a compatibility issue with the two sims personality? Like opposing traits or something? Just a thought.
xoChelleJoxo
11 years ago
"SlyBoots;12588785" wrote:
"ShalimarX;12588748" wrote:
yeah there's a Divorce option under the MEan social listing.

And it took a week? Took my guy 3 sims days to meet a random townie, smooze her, woo her and marry her.

Next day asperations wanted me to try for baby ;)

I think the OP means is there an option to ask another sim to break up with their spouse, so that they can get married instead. I can't answer this myself because I've been waiting all day for the game to arrive (!!!!!!), but have you tried rotating to that household and manually splitting them up? From what I hear you can do this quite easily in TS4 and you won't lose anything in your current household. Unless of course he's a townie, then I don't know what to do :neutral_face:

That's exactly what I meant. I hope your game arrives soon. :)

Since it's a legacy challenge, I can't change households :( And I'm 99% sure he's a townie (not positive, though).

"MsPhy;12588790" wrote:
"WriterJunkie;779265" wrote:
I'm doing the legacy challenge. And I've struggled a little with relationships in Sims 4 (it took me a little over a sim week to get mine and hubby's simselves together and married and pregnant - and that's living together).

Well, now in my legacy challenge my sim met a guy and has been building the green relationship bar. We're about half way so I thought I'd do some romantic interactions... only to find out he's married already!

So, my question... can you split up relationships and marriages in Sims 4 like you could in Sims 3? Is it the same way "Ask to break up"? I do not want to lose all the time I've invested in this sim and have to start over.

Yes, it can be done. It took a lot of courting on my Sim's part, though, because I guess the object of his affection had a really strong relationship with her spouse. Some time has passed and they've had their first child, but she sometimes still gets sad because of the divorce.

Great. I'll just keep pushing thru since I know it's possible. Thanks! :D

"DiSoAngel;12588792" wrote:
Do you think their could a compatibility issue with the two sims personality? Like opposing traits or something? Just a thought.

For mine and my hubby's simselves, I don't think it was incompatible traits. We both are family-oriented. I'm not too sure with my legacy girl. I don't see anything that would really stand out as incompatible, but I don't know all his traits yet. Of course, I'm not sure which traits would be considered incompatible at this point, so it very well could be.
donnad82
11 years ago
If he's a townie, I think you can find him in the manage households option and move him into a house. I think. But I'm not positive. I may just be blowing smoke, but I'm not at home to check my information right now. :)
Damian_Nyx
11 years ago
"WriterJunkie;779265" wrote:
I'm doing the legacy challenge. And I've struggled a little with relationships in Sims 4 (it took me a little over a sim week to get mine and hubby's simselves together and married and pregnant - and that's living together).

Well, now in my legacy challenge my sim met a guy and has been building the green relationship bar. We're about half way so I thought I'd do some romantic interactions... only to find out he's married already!

So, my question... can you split up relationships and marriages in Sims 4 like you could in Sims 3? Is it the same way "Ask to break up"? I do not want to lose all the time I've invested in this sim and have to start over.

What you could always do (if you cant split) is place one of your premade male sims in a empty lot and let her meet him. or cheat and take the married sim into cas and set him and his wife as room mates. ctrl+shift+c then testingcheats true and then shift click on him and mod in cas. change relationship (it should show his whole house) to room mate. i dont know the rules on your challenge but if thats all you can do then why not?