Close Knit/People Person lifestyles need and update

The tuning is a mess for lifestyles. I shouldn’t have a tense newlywed Sim, because she wanted to focus on her studies in Uni, therefore developed a single and loving it lifestyle. Also, my Sims child shouldn’t be holding a grudge against her mom, because she didn’t like the flower given to her as part of a holiday tradition. These types of features they add always seem to but implemented sloppily, then we either have to mod them or they end up nerfed.. a middle ground would be nice for once :|