Do you like Wants/Fears more than Whims?

I got tired of whims a couple of years ago and I just ignored them. I was excited for wants and fears before I realized they were nothing like what I thought they'd be. I did have some worries in the back of my mind when the feature was announced that fears would do exactly what they're doing, taking over everything. I have found a couple of mods to make wants better and to deal with the fears. Sadly they're still having an effect even if my sims aren't getting full blown fears. I want the fears tuned way down and for the off switch to actually work.